I’m a Sunday warrior.
At my house, Saturday is our Sabbath — it’s the only day of the week we don’t set an alarm, and there is no work allowed from me or Captain Awesome. We enjoy each other and I try not to overly schedule anything. We eat big breakfasts, spend most of the day outside, and rarely look at our phones. It’s really hard and really good but that’s another post entirely.
Sundays though — Sundays are fierce. I do everything I can Sunday afternoon and evening to prep for the coming week. I do laundry, make sure the house is tidy, the dishwasher empty, meals planned, grab and go breakfast ready and waiting. We sync our schedules and I get my mind and my heart ready for the coming week.
Basically, I brace myself for the hurricane.
Queenie has “school” bright and early Monday morning and I have approximately 1.36 million errands and groceries and ideas, and double that number of distractions to avoid.
And about half the time, in spite of my prep work, Monday is a disaster. A cranky toddler makes landfall, an unexpected series of errands puts me behind, someone poops where they’re not supposed to or I spill tea down my front or insert-calamity-here.
The ladies at the front desk at Queenie’s school think I’m hilarious, but what I really am is a hot mess who knows how to laugh at herself.
But on those chaotic mornings when I’m running a step behind — which, for me, sets the tone of my whole week — I’ve found the one thing that brings me back up to speed.
And it’s not an extra shot of espresso.
It’s a simple interaction that takes less than ten seconds and very little effort.
It’s a compliment.
When you’re rushing and the anxiety and stress is building and an endless loop of to-dos and haven’t-dones and go go gos are running through your head, stop for a second. Open your eyes to the world around you.
And compliment someone.
It can be as simple as “you look nice today” or “I love your shirt, it looks great on you” or “you make a great cup of coffee.”
It doesn’t matter. Be truthful — let yourself appreciate or notice someone else, even a stranger. In fact, I find it easier when it’s a stranger.
By taking that moment to step outside of your own head and in turn brighten someone else’s day, you change the balance of the armful you’re carrying. Suddenly, your grip is stronger. Suddenly, you can manage it better.
By complimenting someone, you reset the blaring alarm in your head. You recenter your priorities. And your entire perspective changes, because you’ve already done something worthwhile and good and for someone else, and that spirit of giving, that spirit of encouragement, will then encourage you.
And spoiler alert — it doesn’t just work for Mondays.
So go out today and when you feel yourself getting overwhelmed and stressed and behind, find someone and give them a compliment. What could it hurt? Nothing. Kindness, friends.
Now let’s get back to crushing it this week!